55 comments on “Dressing Grief

  1. A wonderful poem Paul beautifully written and very emotional for me. I was particularly moved by the reference to him looking like the fifty year long disease had never happened. Clearly your father was who he was despite his disease and its so easy to rationalise this and say “yes, Im still the same person, Im still who I was before all this ravaged my body”, but I don’t feel anything like I was before, or as someone reminded me once, I don’t feel anything like the image I had of myself. Disease does change us though and I once wrote a poem which said that I don’t see my body as a bonus. After all we were given one, and to see and feel it crumbling away is indescribable. I dont want to only look like me before all this when Im dead but I guess that is how it will be. These are the thoughts your poem evoked for me.

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      • It made me think about when my dad passed–he did look peaceful and noble, handsome at the funeral; but the whole thing seemed kind of surreal–his bout with cancer and subsequent death coincided with the final days of my marriage, and divorce. So I was much at sea, drowning in loss with no rescue in sight.


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  3. You poem touched my heart in many ways. I lost my father, brother to devastating illnesses . When seeing them in their coffin for the first time, I was shocked to see how young and refreshed they appeared to be; a far cry from long suffering souls before their deaths. They had that look of “final relief’. A heart rendering write!

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  4. happy to be the 100th person to like this wonderful poem, very vivid, capturing both father and son in just a few words…and i might add, lightly, the family.


  5. I don’t feel that my words can do this piece justice. Perhaps knowing that I am left without words but with sentiment and a warm heart, is enough.

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